Spoons, Clean or Dirty?


I’m sure you have all read the spoon theory? I love the spoon theory. No matter what chronic illness you have or who of you know someone with a chronic illness you have to read the spoon theory. I will give you a quick synopsis.

If we look at activities in our lives and the effort it takes to complete an activity, think of the energy needed as spoons. You get so many spoons (energy) per day. A healthy person has an unlimited number of spoons, they use up a spoon, another one is there waiting for them. Unlimited. A person with a chronic illness, such as fibromyalgia, has a limited number of spoons to use each day, 10 spoons. Let us say getting up and brushing your teeth takes 1 spoon, showering and getting dressed takes another 3. Making breakfast takes up 1 spoon. Walking your dog takes 3 spoons. It’s not even noon and the person with fibromyalgia has already used 8 spoons. There are two energy spoons left. How are you going to clean your house, get groceries and make dinner? You are not. The healthy person can, not the person with fibromyalgia.

So use your spoons wisely if you have fibromyalgia. You may want to shower every other day or take a relaxing bath in the evening. You will want to schedule household chores, breaking them up so you only clean one room a day. De-clutter. Don’t waste energy on dusting all those trinkets. Taking walks should never be given up on, you may want to take shorter, more frequent walks to conserve energy. Errands. Never ending errands!!! Get familiar with sites that deliver. I order everything I can on the internet or hand a short list to my husband. I have found that ordering household items keeps me with-in the budget I set for the month. There are no impulse purchases. Meals, make simple meals. Freeze meals for days when you are unable to cook. You may want to put aside a day to make soups and casseroles. Ask your partners and kids for help! There will be days, as my husband told me recently when all the spoons are dirty! So try to prepare for those days too.


Just breathe. Stay Strong. You got this!





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  1. Wishing you ‘clean and plentiful’ spoons this weekend! I love the image of each day being a present to unwrap… a gift to treasure because as you say .. who knows what the next day may bring! Thankyou for your inspiration and I’ll enjoy unwrapping my gift when I wake up in the morning.. xx

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  2. Another Wendy here. From Picnic with Ants 😆
    I love that your husband pointed out that some days all the spoons are dirty. Or they all just fell on the floor!
    May we have plenty of spoons this weekend. Right now I’m running low, but have a train to put together. ☺ (it can wait if I run out of spoons)
    Yesterday has past it will never come again. The future has not been written, we cannot see it. But today is all we have, it is a gift, that’s why we call it the present. Here’s to our presents.

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    1. Right you are! To our ‘present’ and clean spoons!
      Wouldn’t you know my tree lights just went out last night ? Today I will be taking all the lights off and restringing a new batch. This has become very important to me though! I must have my tree! And it is worth a spoon or two! I have a few Christmas movies to pick from, just haven’t decided which one, Maybe Tim Allen, the Santa Claus. My hubby doesn’t like board games which is a shame but I know he has always wanted to learn chess… guess what Santa is bringing him? 😉

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      1. No one said you have to stick to just one Christmas movie. LOL.
        When we put up our tree we tested the first strand of lights but not the second, so we had a tree that only lit half way. We had to restring half the tree. The lights are the hard part. I was glad hubby was willing to do most of that.
        You’ve made me so happy. You’ve made my Christmas more special hearing about yours. ♡

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  3. Agreed! I am so excited this year for my Christmas too! We can exchange notes for next year too! I am going to plan a New Years Eve celebration for just the hubby and me as well… ideas??? We watch the New York City ball drop. I received one of those cheese and meat boxes that never go bad… (Yikes.)
    In all seriousness, just nice to know someone out there is trying to establish their own traditions as we are. Thanks Wendy!


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