Hello God? It’s me, Kim.

This is a question I am often asked. If there is a God, why does he let bad things happen? The God I know, that I worship, that I call my Father does not make bad things happen. He is incapable of making bad things happen because God is Love. My Father wraps his arms around me when bad things happen and comforts me. God may have a plan for our lives, but there is this one little thing called free will. You choose your path. Don’t blame your left turn on God when he gave you the opportunity to take that right turn.16708679_1071870509583479_7063975714836039657_n (1)

I lost a brother who was just a young man to cancer. At one point during the last days of his life, he asked me what he did wrong to make God hate him? Prone to crying during these last days with him, I knew this was why I was placed in his room at that moment. You see we all have things to learn in this life, at that moment it was to comfort my dying brother, not cry for my loss. I explained to him that God loved him, God would never hurt him. Our bodies were fallible, and a specific cell that was supposed to split a certain way did not do what it was supposed to do. This cell was sick. This sick cell made another sick cell and another until it turned into cancer that he now had. My brother finally understood God wasn’t punishing him. God was giving him the strength to be on this earth with us these final days, but he would not be saved, he would be going to Heaven.



My brother was Korean, we adopted him at age nine. We added the 8th to our family of 7. My mom said she believed we had enough love for one more and we did indeed have enough. He always had a language barrier, and this would follow him into adulthood. He tended to be a bit naive but was always so smiley. He had a heart of gold but oh did he love to tease! He was a terror to my little sister and me growing up! But then a big smile would come, his face would light up, and all was forgiven. God didn’t make my brother get cancer, his human body failed him. God did comfort Kory, and all of us as Kory finally passed on August 18, 2003, holding our Dad’s hand.

Why did God give us illnesses? Chronic syndromes? Chronic conditions? He didn’t. For some reason, that car accident, flu, traumatic event, hereditary gene… for some reason, something went wrong. Your little human body just couldn’t handle it, and you ended up with a chronic condition. You were given nothing harmful by God, but he is available if you find yourself needing strength!

We are all so busy trying to pray enough, take the right medication, eat right, go to therapy, we forget to LIVE! We forget it is not our job to JUDGE! Who is right, who is wrong? Christians can’t decide who is Christian enough. The Jewish can’t decide who is Jewish enough. I won’t start with the Muslim faith because I know nothing about it but I bought a Quran, and I am going to learn about it. I am sure they have their finger-pointing as well. For the rest of the faiths, be they Christian or not, who is better than…? Is there a best in Wicca or is there a better atheist than another? Do atheists have a “better than” category? (And thank you for reading this much if you are not Christian I realize it was a pretty big title to start with!)

I don’t have all the answers. Sometimes I wish I did, but I think I’m glad I don’t! So I would like to leave you with this, it all comes down to one answer for all of life’s questions.


Live your best life!

Screen Shot 2018-02-25 at 12.48.43 PM~Kim

Author: I tripped over a stone.

I am happily married to Jeff. We are full-time RVers. We have two Goldendoodles; Dora and Dezzie. I have had Fibromyalgia for over 20 years and have learned a few tricks to deal with it, but it is my stone in the road! I am a Fibromyalgia Advocate. I have co-authored a book, The Shadow Boxers, Fighting Fibromyalgia (your personal journal.) It is available on Amazon and on my blog. I enjoy making Tribe Bracelets, also available now on my blog. Stone in the Road is another blog of mine where I post a collection of stories by bloggers that I follow.

13 thoughts on “Hello God? It’s me, Kim.”

  1. I’m not a Christian but I like everything you said. I’m Buddhist, we aren’t supppsed to judge, but I’m sure some do. I have found myself judging Christians because they want to blame or praise God for everything that happens to them. as you said, God didn’t give us illnesses. I sure wouldn’t want to think that God caused all wars. No he didn’t. He wouldn’t put all those innocent people at risk. Wars are started by men…and women. They aren’t acts of God. (I don’t think the weather is either)
    I try my hardest not to judge anyone, but I do find myself doing it. Then I must be gentle with myself, and put it aside. Then I try more to not be judgmental.

    I’m so sorry to hear about your brother. that’s heart breaking. I’m glad you can see it as it is. It just is. That happened, there was no divine cause for it.

    Thanks for this article, it takes a lot to have the courage to write it.


    1. Your comment means a lot to me. Very interesting Buddha! I love the entire message. Yes, so much finger pointing and literal corruption in the arena of organized religion. The messages that are out there about Christian, Jewish, Muslim, even Catholic Religion, are radical messages. There is no judgement from the God I know. I believe he probably knows Buddha and they are having a grand ole time! Seriously, I read a book called Many Masters, Many Minds by Dr. Brian Weiss. His take, as he found that many of his patients were reporting past lives under hypnosis, is that we are put on this earth to learn lessons. Our soul will return as many times as it takes to learn. Very interesting read. VERY! I don’t see you as a judgmental person Wendy. I would believe that is the last thing I would believe about you. god doesn’t make bad things happen, he is incapable of it… when the Bible was written, by MAN, the times were different and today’s science can dispel much of what was claimed to be “an act of God”. But to each their own, right? And yes, always be gentle with yourself. Always. ~Kim

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      1. I love your comment. Thich Nhat Hanh wrote a book about Buddha and Jesus.
        I keep meaning to read it.

        Different topic, kind of, have you team How To Be Sick? I think you would like it. She’s Buddhist but the book is geared toward everyone.
        Toni Bernhard, is the author’s name.
        I like all of her books.

        Buddhist are misunderstood too. He was not a god. That’s a big thing people misunderstand.

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      2. I think I hit send before I meant to.
        Thank you for not thinking I’m judgemental. If I am I try to stop myself. But sometimes I think I am.
        I think everyone is sometimes.
        I’m a lot less judgemental than I was before I got sick.
        xo – wendy

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  2. I am I shock. I have How to be Sick by Toni B. in my shopping cart on Amazon! Wierd. I must agree that before I was sick I was very judgmental. It seemed like everything I was ‘against’ or ‘would never put up with’ I experienced… domestic violence, marijuana, back injury = SSDI, with a former fiancé, etc. then I got in a car accident! Was told I had a chronic illness and my doctor removed my ass from work! Never would I go on SSDI, my long term disability required me to apply and was granted it that day???!!! Just crazy. I could use a little zen. Oh great blog MS RD Joanne and cannot remember her last name but it’s about intuitive eating, mindful eating- Lifestyle not a diet. I’ve been so busy with this blog and my FB page, writing the next big Fibromyalgia book, I got to get it together! So judgemental, religion, self care, life lessons etc… I still have so much to learn in this lifetime! May not get it all done!

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