Preparing for Closure.


It has always concerned me when people leave the blogosphere without a goodbye. I want to say, my process to prepare for the closure of my blog is now underway. I am beginning my goodbye.

My mom died on Father’s Day of this year, 2020. She was 79. The hubby and I are currently in Seattle. I had purchased a plane ticket to fly home, but we are not allowed to have a funeral. COVID-19. We are not allowed to gather… etc.

I watched two televised funerals, men who died during altercations with the police. Both funerals were quite spectacular, attended by so many people! Important people.

My mom was not in an altercation with the police when she died. So we will quietly bury her in our small town cemetery with no official service, very few attendees, no important people.

There is so much information out there about Fibromyalgia Syndrome. New and exciting information. I follow many amazing bloggers! They are knowledgable and up to date! I am not in a place to bring more information to you, I’m just trying to survive and learn all I can. Trying. Not really succeeding with new information. Not willing to try new treatments any longer that could adversely affect what little health I have left.

I don’t want to be a cynical blogger. I am becoming disillusioned by so many things, I am becoming a crabby blogger! This, in turn, affects my health in negative ways…

It’s not you, it’s me. I mean this. I have so enjoyed being a part of this community. I have been so lucky to get to know each and every one of you. My time has come though, and I am preparing to say goodbye.

How can I help you before I go? What resources can I provide you with? Please let me know. I’ll remain present for a couple more weeks but I will be saying a permanent goodbye by the 15th of this month, July 2020.

I will continue with my FaceBook Page. I will provide fact-checked information to the best of my ability, I just will not be sharing any narrative stories of my own. (Edited 7-4-2020)

I began blogging in 2015. I have enjoyed it and hope I have been a positive person that you could read and discuss the many topics with. I wouldn’t have changed my blogging experience for anything!

(Maybe a million dollars… I’d probably take a hard look at that!)

80 thoughts on “Preparing for Closure.

  1. Kim, you have been a light in my blogging world and such an inspiration to me. I know that I have been really absent since before my Dad died, and although I am saddened by your leaving, I totally get it. Our lives change so much with loss. I will miss your stories, but more than anything, I hope that we can stay connected. So much love to you, Beautiful Lady!!!!

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  2. I completely understand. I will continue to look forward to you on Facebook.
    I would like to give you some unasked for advice. Be crabby! That’s part of Fibro! You are allowed to be crabby!
    You are also awesome!
    I’m so sorry for the loss you are going through about your Mom and the circumstances around it.

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  3. Kim- 2020 has changed us. Made us review things and reprioritize our lives. My mother in law passed on March 12. We did not have a funeral none of the five other siblings flew in to pay their respects. She was buried by the men at the funeral home with no one in attendance.
    I understand why you would be exhausted by the constant desire to fulfill the obligation to the blog. People have counted on you to being light to their dark moments and give them hope. We are all grateful for all you have given us. What we can give to you is a thank you accompanied by a happy β€œsee ya later” and wish you health and happiness.
    Hope to see you in the road sometime.
    High fives and well wishes my friend.

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    • Patty! Yes! Yes to all you wrote. Thanks so much… sorry you experienced the loss of your mother in law is a similar manner. (Difficult to get closure…) You are welcome nad I have a feeling we will ‘bump’ into each other on the road. πŸ™‚


  4. I didn’t believe I would ever hear this from you. You LOVE blogging, dammit. What you write about does matter.
    I know we’ll stay in touch, but this place won’t be the same without you.

    Sorry for sounding the way I do. I’m sad, that’s all.

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  5. Oh Kim, I’m so sorry for your loss. Losing a parent is hard at the best of times, and during this strange time we’re living in, it’s even harder. Praying you’ll be able to grieve and say good-bye in a way that brings healing to all of you. I’m sorry to hear you’re leaving the blogosphere, but I get it…. I’ve had the same thoughts many times, and I even expressed the same sentiments about writing about fibromyalgia when I made the shift to wellness at the beginning of June. I wish you all the best, sweet friend! Sending lots of love and hugs your way!

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  6. Kim,
    Please take care of yourself! I will miss you, my friend. When you leave, the sun won’t shine as bright, the breeze won’t be as nice, all well be lessened. I get it, though. Thanks for letting us know. Please stop by anytime you like. My door will always be open to you, my friend. Now I need to go have a good cry. Mona

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    • Awe. Mona! Don’t cry, cause you’ll make me cry. This has been so much fun, keeping up with Wayward Sparkles. I can’t imagine not having met you. Nope. Can’t. You know where I’ll be and I will always be checking up on you! x


  7. I just began to follow you so I’m going to miss all of your future wisdom and insights. I am so sorry for your loss, and the inability to have a proper ‘closure’. Please take good care of yourself so that if you feel like coming back, you’ll know that we’re all here to welcome you.

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  8. If I haven’t told you before one of the things I love most about you is your compassion for others especially when you always have a full plate. Thank you for the heads up about your blog. I will always remember it fondly! As for you, while I have many positive memories, I know that our friendship is not done. I will continue to “stalk” you on facebook, and occasionally send the random text. I’m sorry about your mom’s passing. 😦

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    • Karen Grace! Haha. Awe. Thanks for such kind words. Stalk away… my security team has been briefed. I fully expect a breech! πŸ˜‰πŸ‘πŸ»πŸ‘πŸ»πŸ‘πŸ» you better breach! Coming around to your neck of the woods one day soon. Gotta meet them grandies! πŸ˜ŠπŸ’

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  9. I am very sorry to read this post. I understand, though. It’s been a pleasure to know you, Kimmy. ❀
    Also, my heart is broken about the loss of your mother. Take as good care of yourself as possible.

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  11. Kim Hugs to you. This year has been hard in more ways than the virus. I hug your very big hug. I hope you just take a sabbatical and return to us your friends here at we all need SPACE I really get it. Take all the space you need. Space, silence, meditation and inner peace, heals the soul inanimate special way. The love of the divine heals us. And one day we arise again, whole, new, different. It will all be good. It will. Be.

    I have facebook page too, please follow me for meditation they will help you.

    I am not saying goodbye… I am saying see you soon, whenever that will be,but I know it will come some day.

    Hugs to you my darling kim.. really hugs. Tears in my eyes, love and peace I send to you. Stay safe, stay in the light of he divine and one day after hibernation all will be well. It will be.

    😘πŸ₯°πŸ˜ŸπŸ™πŸ˜ͺπŸ˜₯ I will miss u. But please do come back when you feel better.

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  12. Dear Kim, I am so sorry you have lost your dear Mum. I understand how tough it is to blog for five years through life’s ups and downs. I have felt like leaving my blog so many times, but I am addicted! You will be very much missed. Hugs to you for the next part of your journey.

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    • Thanks so much Brigid! I am absolutely beyond pleased I was able to find you in this blogosphere! You are a delight to read. Thank you for sharing your beautiful garden with me! Not all β€˜addictions’ are bad. Keep blogging my friend!πŸ’œ

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  13. By these comments, I think it’s safe to say that you’re going to be hugely missed. I feel so sad reading this, not just because you’re leaving here but for everything you’ve been through and are currently going through. The pain and exhaustion is palpable in your words.

    I’m glad you’re doing what’s right for you. You’ve always encouraged others to do the same so it’s good you’re taking your own advice (don’t be a hypocrite like me πŸ˜‰). I’m going to miss you like crazy and miss your blogs, the Sunday question shares, all of it. But you have so, so much to be proud of. You’ve achieved a lot in your time blogging, whether you realise it a lot. You’ve built a tribe, you’ve bought people together. You’ve given the power of knowledge and advice and comfort. You’ve provided inspiration. Most of all, you’ve been there. You showed up, and to me you’ll always be one of the first bloggers I came to call a friend and one of the first blogs I started to feel this exciting energy of having a tribe with. I’m still wearing my bracelet too!

    I’m glad you’re keeping Facebook. Obviously if things get too much then step back or take a little time out, but at least those that love you on here will be able to check in with you and keep you in their lives.

    The situation right now seems so angering and so unfair, and the world is falling apart. I feel filled with anger, which is very uncomfortable as I’m not an angry person. I haven’t experienced half of what you have and yet I still feel overwhelmed with it all, with a heart too heavy to carry sometimes. Please, please stay as safe as possible. You and hubby, and your pops, will all get through this, together. Sending lots of love.Β β™₯

    Caz xxxxx

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    • Caz! Ohhhh… you made me cry. Shoot!πŸ˜† Thank you so much for the kind words. I am at a loss for words! (Imagine that!) I just love you to pieces. Seriously. You are incredible – as a person, a blogger, a chronic illness advocate, best of all- a friend. We are all linked up on FB. You and I will remain in contact. You have my email… I accept any and all Caz emails! Awe. It’ll be a bit different but at least this is not goodbye. Thank you, Caz for all that you do on your amazing blog! Thank you, Caz for always being so kind to me. Now I need to go blow my nose cause I was ugly cryin. Nobody wants to see this hot mess! πŸ˜†πŸ’œπŸ’œπŸ’œ

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  14. Grief is a bad time for decisions. I haven’t followed you, but those who have seem to be invested in your life seem to have enjoyed you a lot. One Thousand, Fifty Six followers – what a treasure. My adventure toward blogdom is connected to my books. My adventure is setting up a blog and website often reminds me of a poplar video of a dozen men and a veterinarian trying to dart a huge adult giraffe to remove a wire wrapped around it’s neck. The scene involves them trying to wrap a restraint around the 20ft beauty and keep it from running away and then breaking its fall when it finally collapsed. They are dragged, they are pushed away, get up to grab again and finally, get it to the point it is free of wire, given an antibiotic and a shot to “turn it back on.” The blog has been more work than the books will every be – right now, I cannot fathom giving up 1,056 who care about my work. But I understand grief. Many years as an officer working auto accidents, things people do to each other, and tiny children whose lives are snuffed while playing too hard. Then their is the lost of my son. Grief is not a good time to make a decision. God bless you, these are turbulent times, but we do not have to swirl along with them. Rest yourself. WDE

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    • What a wonderful comment to receive! The giraffe adventure alone is amazing! Outstanding. I’ve been blogging for 5 years. I treasure my tribe of followers. As an officer, I am sure you’ve seen your share of heartbreak. And the loss of a son. My heart breaks. I thank you for serving us in the community as a police officer, sir. Sincere thanks. You are right. When grieving, don’t make life decisions. I was in a car accident, and taken very good care of by the first officer on the scene. My life was permanently changed that day by someone choosing to speed through a residential neighborhood and T-boned the passenger side of the car I was riding in. Sometimes the choice is just not ours to make. I do need to retire my blog. It has been the lifeblood of my day for 5 years. Now that chapter will close. This amazing group of bloggers, my tribe, they are phenomenal individuals who will be absolutely fine without me. I know… I think I’ll miss them more! But my time for change is upon me. It was a pleasure reading your comment. I’m sad I’ll be missing more of these. Many thanks. And yes, I will rest. 😊

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  15. You never know. All those years running up and down the highway at 100+ miles per hour. One day while using my church’s lawnmower, top speed 18 mph, I am clotheslined off the mower. The resulting nerve damage in my neck has changed my ability to work. I look healthy, but I can’t use one hand well and have a lot of pain. Prayers for you. Enjoy

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  16. Kim,
    I am so sorry I am just seeing this – it’s been a tough few months for me. I am deeply sorry to hear about your mother. I lost my father last year and it still hurts. I lost my uncle this year during the pandemic and having to watch a memorial service after the fact on YouTube just isn’t the same as being there with family to relive memories and share in the joy and the grief together.
    I commend your decision to walk away and make the best decision for you. I often consider doing the same. I feel like my blog is more for me than anyone else. I will certainly miss you but forever wish you the best in life, health, and happiness. ❀

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  17. Oh my goodness Kim…………..I so wish I was here on WP when you wrote this last post. My heart is so sad as I will miss you terribly. You were one of the people I couldn’t wait to get into contact with upon my return. I realize you may never see this……..but if you do, please know that your kindness, love, support and encouragement made a huge difference to me. I wish you all the best on your next journey!

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  18. I was just thinking of you and now you are moving on or staying in place (to rest and survive)…so many beautiful bloggers and readers have left this sphere, there are days when I falter and wonder about closing up shop, too.
    I will miss your presence, Kim, and wish you all the best as we make our way through 2020 and beyond!

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    • Awe… I do know I will miss you, and have. Just had to make my world a bit smaller, a bit more cozy. Saying goodbye to the blogosphere has been freeing but absolutely heartbreaking too. We move, dig in… and move again. Love this life as we RV! There are so many GOOD people in this world! I am beyond blessed to be able to meet such folks. You take care of you! Please! Just be your own VERY BEST friend… times are tough right now, emotionally- and more. If you falter, just be kind to yourself! Pain is the most difficult thing in living a full life, and you are doing just that! Blessings to you! πŸ˜ŠπŸ’πŸ’πŸ’

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